1543) Why This Hollywood Screenwriter Goes to Church

Mark Galli, editor in chief of Christianity Today, gave this recommendation for the following essay:  “I  can wax eloquent on why commitment to a local church, especially weekly worship, is vital for life.  But such an essay sounds more convincing coming from someone who, rightly or wrongly, we don’t expect to see in church—like this Hollywood screenwriter.”

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A black and white photo of dorothy fortenberry.

By playwrite and screen writer Dorothy Fortenberry, for the Los Angeles Review of Books Quarterly Journal, Fall 2016.

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     “You don’t have to like it.  You just have to go,” I tell my five-year-old kid every Sunday when she complains about going to church.  Every Sunday, even though she would prefer to stare at my smartphone, I make her go anyway.

     Even though my smartphone is extremely wonderful.

     Even though our religion — like all religions — has been responsible for terrible things.

     Even though I often find the whole thing nutty and tacky, like a theme restaurant or the kind of museum you visit on a road trip.

     Even though, when I was a kid and was similarly dragged by my mom, I was convinced that I would never go again of my own free will.

     Every Sunday, we go.

     This is my attempt to explain why.

     I live in Los Angeles.  I am a screenwriter.

     Being a screenwriter in Los Angeles is like being on a perpetual second date with everyone you know.  You strive to be your most charming, delightful, quirky-but-not-damaged self because you never know what will come of the encounter.  Maybe it’s just a coffee.  Maybe it’s the coffee that leads to a job.  Maybe it’s the job that leads to a series.  Who knows!  So, you wear flattering jeans and an expensive, casual shirt, and you smile.

     This is not such a bad life.  Compared to other lives that I have lived, it is, frankly, an awesome one.  I am very, very happy being a screenwriter in Los Angeles.  It’s a marvelous gig that I am grateful for.

     But being on a perpetual second date can get exhausting.  Constantly feeling that you should be meeting people, impressing people, shocking people (just the right amount) is a strange way to live your life.  And one of the reasons that I go to church is that church is the opposite of that.

     I do not impress anyone at church.  I do not say anything surprising or charming, because the things I say are rote responses that someone else decided on centuries ago.  I am not special at church, and this is the point.  Because (according to the ridiculous, generous, imperfectly applied rules of my religion) we are all equally beloved children of God.  We are all exactly the same amount of special.  The things that I feel proud of can’t help me here, and the things that I feel embarrassed by are beside the point.  I’m a person but, for 60 minutes, I’m not a personality.

     Another thing that I value:  When I go to church in Los Angeles, I am a white person in a majority nonwhite space.  In a city that’s an oxymoronic 70 percent minority, that shouldn’t be a special occurrence, but it is.  Even more special is that I have come with no particular agenda.  I have not come to teach or volunteer or try a new cuisine or inhabit a new neighborhood.  I have not even come to act as an “ally.”  I have come to sit next to people, well aware of all we don’t have in common, and face together in the same direction.  Halfway through church, I turn to the congregants next to me and share the peace.  I wish that they experience peace in their lives.  That’s it.  They wish the same for me.  Our words are identical.  Our need for peace is infinite.

     Church is a group of broken individuals united only by our brokenness traveling together to ask to be fixed.

     But church is not just about how I feel or whom I’m surrounded by.  It’s about faith.  This part is harder for me to explain.

     I like being Catholic because long ago, people who were smarter than me and thought about it much longer than I have time to figured out what I’m supposed to believe.  All I have to do is show up and recite a long list that starts with “I believe” and ends with “the life everlasting.”  Whether I actually believe all the stuff about Jesus and Mary and Light from Light, true God from true God varies.  Most of the time, I do, I think.  Sometimes I don’t.

     The single most annoying thing a nonreligious person can say, in my opinion, isn’t that religion is oppressive or that religious people are brainwashed.  It’s the kind, patronizing way that nonreligious people have of saying, “You know, sometimes I wish I were religious.  I wish I could have that certainty.   It just seems so comforting to never doubt things.”

     Well, sometimes I wish I had the certainty of an atheist.  I wish I could be positive that there was no God and that Sundays were for brunch.  That dead people stayed dead and prayer was useless and Jesus was nothing more than a really great teacher.

     But I believe too much, at least sometimes, to be certain about that.  Sometimes I feel like I believe almost everything the church teaches and sometimes I feel like I believe almost nothing, but if I’m anywhere from one to 99 percent on the belief scale, my response is the same.  If it’s more than zero, I should go to church.

     I do not find religion to be comforting in the way that I think nonreligious people mean it.  I do not believe that everything in my life will necessarily be all right and I do not believe that everything happens for a reason.  I believe that whatever kind of God exists is the kind of God who can’t or won’t interfere every time humans decide to do horrible things to each other, because humans are clearly doing terrible things to each other every day and show very few signs of stopping.

     It is not comforting to know quite as much as I do about how weaselly and weak-willed I am when it comes to being as generous as Jesus demands.  Thanks to church, I have a much stronger sense of the sort of person I would like to be, and I am forced to confront all the ways in which I fail, daily.  Nothing promotes self-awareness like turning down an opportunity to bring children to visit their incarcerated parents.  Or avoiding shifts at the food bank.  Or calculating just how much I will put in the collection basket.  Thanks to church, I have looked deeply into my own heart and found it to be of merely small-to-medium size.  None of this is particularly comforting.

     Which is not to say there aren’t parts of church that are comforting.  It is comforting, for instance, to sing songs in a group.  Singing alongside other people is a basic human pleasure that extends back across time and culture, and it’s a shame to me that many adult Americans only experience it before baseball games.

     It is comforting to pray.  Even without full knowledge or understanding of how the prayer will be received, it is comforting to offer up one’s wishes for the world.  In a time of stress and anxiety and distrust, it is comforting to be direct about what a possible alternative would look like.  Someone leads the prayers every week at church and the kinds of things we pray for are both straightforward (an end to the death penalty; a living wage for all workers; safe homes for refugees; care for the planet and its climate) and very difficult to achieve, which makes them ideal subjects for prayer.

     When I think about any of these things outside of church, my blood pressure skyrockets and I go into a mild panic attack.  When I pray about them in church, I feel like I am doing a tiny bit to help.

     Thought about with even a smidgen of rationality, prayer makes no sense.  If you asked me point blank what I believe about how God picks and chooses among petitions ranging from new sneakers to the stopping of genocide, I would stammer incoherently.  I would tell you, I suppose, that God has some sort of triage system that I can’t figure out, but also that anyone who wants to should pray for anything they want — why not?  It seems presumptuous to self-censor our prayers for fear they are not worthy of His time.  If anyone is able to structure His time efficiently, it ought to be God.

     I would also tell you that, when facing a medical difficulty in one of my pregnancies to which doctors responded, “wait and see,” I asked the priest at church to put his hands on my belly and pray.  I would tell you that my best friend asked her church in Indiana to pray for my pregnancy, too, and the thought of a bunch of people sending their wishes for my potential child into the air still moves me more than I know what to do with.

     I don’t know if the feeling I get when I think about this is God.

     I do know that I want it to be. 

     Church isn’t an escape from the world.  It’s a continuation of it.  My family and I don’t go to church to deny the existence of the darkness.  We to go to look so hard at the light that our eyes water.

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John 8:12  —  When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world.  Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.”

Exodus 20:8  —  Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy.

Hebrews 10:24-25  —  Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another— and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

Hebrews 10:28  —  Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe.

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Light of the world
You stepped down into darkness.
Opened my eyes, let me see.
Beauty that made this heart adore You
Hope of a life spent with You

Here I am to worship,
Here I am to bow down,
Here I am to say that You’re my God
You’re altogether lovely
Altogether worthy,
Altogether wonderful to me.

–From “Here I am to Worhship” written by Tim Hughes (1978- ), recorded by many.  Hear it at:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CoxopsRSfdU

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